I know. The title sounds harsh and, perhaps, un-Christ like. But please hear me out. The Oldham Lane Church of Christ, where I am blessed to serve, has experienced tremendous growth since it was planted in the mid-90’s. What started with 73 members from the Baker Heights congregation has blossomed into approximately 600. It’s exciting for sure, however with growth comes challenges. Where you have people you have problems, and where you have more people you have potentially more problems. The staff and elders at Oldham Lane have made a concerted effort to be engaged and to be ready to handle issues when they arise. But we have also made a conscious effort to be proactive, not just reactive. Some problems and issues arise rather spontaneously. You weren’t prepared for them; they were just laid at your feet one day. Others can often be thwarted before they reach the level of severity. With this in mind, the elders and staff at the Oldham Lane church have come to understand that our congregation may not be for every one. While we welcome everyone and while we invite anyone and everyone to come and see what we’re all about, there are some boundaries we have set and some lines we have drawn to protect the body that belongs to the Lord. Here are a few of those boundaries.
Our church is not for soreheads! If you are someone who is constantly complaining about something, yet never doing anything then maybe our church is not for you. Understand we love you. We are deeply concerned about your soul. And we will patiently love you. However, we will not allow you to threaten the unity of the Lord’s church. Jesus prayed for unity (Jn. 17:21). Paul constantly stressed unity in his letters. Are you a threat to unity? If so, you must be disciplined. There are valid concerns and criticisms that some may have. The eldership should seriously consider these, but that’s not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about the man or woman who has made a sport out of griping; the one who has become a professional nagger. Everyone should have a voice and everyone should be heard. Elders are shepherds of the soreheads as much as they are shepherds of the meek and the sweet. But leadership demands that the shepherds lovingly correct those who do nothing yet gripe about everything. The church is not a forum for your scrupulous ranting.
Our church is not for spectators! We won’t boot you out the door. And, we believe, there is a period of time that new members need to survey the landscape and get to know the lay of the land, so to speak. However, we do have expectations for you. We expect you to be a participator, not a spectator. We expect this because God expects it. God doesn’t need more pew-fillers within the church. He needs more laborers in the vineyard. He needs brothers and sisters who are active participants, not passive recipients. We live in a culture of entitlement and that mindset has infiltrated the church to some degree. Some members feel as though it is the responsibility of the church to serve them when, in truth, we were all saved to serve. IT’S NOT ABOUT YOU! It’s about the body. Every one has a role. As Paul so eloquently pointed out in 1 Corinthians 12:14-31 we all have a role. Each one of us makes up a part of the body. Whether you are an eye, a foot, a hand, etc., you have a role. If you are not a working part of the body then your part of the body is dead. The body becomes deformed. And someone else has to pull your weight. There are times when a member is wounded and needs the rest of the body to help bear their burden (Gal. 6:2). However, there is no good reason for a fully capable member not to fulfill their role. We are not a consumer-driven church. We are a Christ-driven church.
Our church is not for those who wish to teach, preach or practice falsehood. There is no room in our church for those who wish to preach a different gospel. There is no place for false teachers. We will not give you a platform to proclaim or practice things that are in opposition to scripture. Don’t come to our church thinking you are going to change the message. When it comes to methods we are always willing to try new things. But we will not be moved from where we stand Biblically. Don’t get me wrong. We don’t claim to be perfect, and we are not above studying and learning. Like the noble-minded Bereans, we are always eager to receive the word and are diligent to examine the scriptures (Acts 17:11). We are also very deliberate in our approach to the Bible as we seek to faithfully follow God’s word.
To say, “Our church is not for everyone,” is not meant to be a statement of exclusivity. Quite the contrary, we want every one to obey the gospel and be a part of the body of Christ. However, we also want them to understand what it means to treasure church membership. We don’t want them to merely come to church; we want them to be the church. We don’t want church to be a part of their lives; we want church to be their life. Christ died for the church. He purchased it, member by member, with His own precious blood, which means we have no right to treat His bride in a self-directed manner. This is not about kicking people to the curb. This is about helping God’s children understand what church is and what it is supposed to be about. So don’t come into a congregation of the Lord’s church with an agenda. Don’t assume that because you contribute a lot monetarily or because you’ve been there the longest that you should have more power. Don’t expect the church to cater to you. The church belongs to our Lord and it functions best when each and every Christian seeks God’s will above all else.