No! God Didn’t Need Another Angel in Heaven…And Other Ridiculous Things We Need to Stop Saying to Those Who Are Grieving!

I see it far too often. Sincere, well-meaning individuals who, in an effort to comfort the grieving, end up saying something that causes further damage. Things like: “What a blessing that God chose you to suffer.” “It’s all part of God’s wonderful plan.” “It…

Ruined By Hope

The photo above was taken by Kevin Carter. It won a Pulitzer Prize and was awarded Picture of the Year by The American Magazine. Disturbing, isn’t it? It depicts a Sudanese child on the brink of starvation and a vulture waiting for a meal. How…

My Problem with the Phrase, “Everything Happens for a Reason”

Many well-intended Christians struggle to find the right words to say to one who is hurting. They see their brother or sister-in-Christ dealing with grief and they feel compelled to reach out. However, in an effort to provide comfort and encouragement they sometimes create…

Just Be There!

Death is difficult. It makes people very uncomfortable. As a result, people often say and do the wrong thing in an attempt to comfort the mourning. Some try to “intellectualize” the feelings of the one who is grieving. Some informal studies show that the…